Home Porn: a Happy Patch


Just stumbled upon this article: “Bettina Arndt’s Sex Diaries” posted on moresexdaily.com and couldn’t take my eyes off the screen until reading the entire first chapter of this book. Unlike others, I don’t read books laid on my back, waiting for the thruster to finish and fade away to his far side of the bed. I’d be an unfaithful wife if treating my dear hubby like a prisoner of his own body. I have what he needs and he can take it from me, by me, whenever he so desires. Whenever? Really? How about my mothering intensive hours? How about the home chores and the gardening pleasures? In an ideal world, like in movies, people only play tennis, jog with an iPod on the arm, shop expensively and dine out at romantic restaurants. But we live in the real world, where work and society exist, unlike in those movies of perfection. And even if I wish to deliver my body as a gift to him, all the time, it happens, so much often, that I can’t, there’s a real barrier to human resilience which makes us tired, falling asleep to regenerate and take it over again the next day.

Read this insightful excerpt, then allow me a warped (as always) conclusion and then make sure to further click the link so you can read the long first chapter from “The Sex Diaries.”

“Hang on a moment. Isn’t that suggesting that women just do it? That sometimes they should have sex when they are not in the mood? The very suggestion runs into a massive ideological roadblock. Women’s right to say ‘no’ has been enshrined in our cultural history for nearly fifty years. It was one of the outstanding achievements of the women’s movement to outlaw rape in marriage and teach women to resist unwanted advances. But it simply hasn’t worked to have a couple’s sex life hinge on the fragile, feeble female libido. The right to say ‘no’ needs to give way to saying ‘yes’ more often—provided both men and women end up enjoying the experience. The notion that it might be in women’s best interests to stop rationing sex is sure to raise hackles, but this is an issue that deserves serious attention.
The case is best made by a passionate letter I received when I first asked for volunteers for the diaries. The writer, Sam, is a 54-year-old, twice-married man from Brisbane whose first marriage fell apart over battles about sex: As my first marriage unravelled, two marriage counsellors were engaged by my first wife and me. The second counsellor asked me to take a week to think about my sex issues and to try to put my feelings into words. As it turned out, I didn’t need a week.”

My man had this graphical inclination that he shared with me: “Let’s take nude pics of you, bunny!” It turned out we even shot some home porns. Judging from the “moral,” “correct,” “ethic,” etc. point of view, this is unacceptable. Well, won’t debate that, because I’m no instance and have no authority whatsoever. What I know, however, is that our little intimate home porns spared us the dreadful stress about who wants, who needs, who gives and who takes our sex moments, or hours, in marriage. Even if I gotta fall asleep (because I’m really tired) he rewinds a summer porn featuring me (laying naked on a yellow deck chair) giving him (standing) a lovely blowjob, with a wonderful set of vivid red cranesbills in the background. I pretend to touch myself to put up for a more lively scene.

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Alternatively, he just stares at some nude photos of me, taken no matter when. With the other hand he caresses my hip and my back (sometimes I feel and sometimes I don’t, if my sleep is too deep). When he’s done, he gives me a kiss, spoon wraps me and we sleep together. It’s always US because of our home porn — the happy patch that keeps our sex drives in sync, even if I must sleep, not pretending to read some book. But you’d rather do! At least this so inspiring chapter: “Fifty Thrusts and Don’t Jiggle My Book” Read further…

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