Fellatio and Cunnilingus


During the week, I’ve got mail from Larry (he writes a site for insights, observations and comments on random issues at larrysmusings.com ).

Here’s the essence of his mail:

“After reading one of your essays about swallowing your husband’s semen, let me just say that your attitude towards oral sex is very positive. More wives really ought to let themselves go, and enjoy all aspects of oral sex – not just when their husband is pleasuring them, but also when they are performing fellatio for their husbands.”

“The wives who overcome their mental block (aversion) to semen are then free to enjoy their loving fellatio including the pulses of the ejaculation deep inside their mouth & then eagerly swallowing the cum (the hormones & the sperm, etc.).”

Having my personal perspective on Larry’s musing about fellatio, I was happy to write him the following reply.

Fellatio, the Best and Safest Birth Control Method

“Thank you for your feedback message. What you write is true.
Especially about a wife’s task in overcoming her mental blockage
against swallowing her hubby’s semen. Let me tell you that my journey to enjoying swallowing wasn’t at all short and easy. Even if hubby took care to serve me more oral sex than he asked from me, even if we mutually gave each other oral sex during our early marriage years, even so I still harbored some aversion to swallowing, hidden deep inside a corner of my mind. Irrational thinking, a man might say, and I agree — we’re no machines, we have emotions, lots of them! But eventually reason prevailed to fix this aversion of mine. That was when I realized that the best, by far, birth control method in marriage is oral sex. It is natural and healthy, and 100% safe!”

“As you notice, a practical situation helped my mind out of this
glitch. Necessity to stop after having four wonderful children,
documenting and dialogs with other wives, friends of mine, and hubby’s understanding and patience with me finally made me see semen as “food” and not just as an outstanding cosmetic care for my skin — this I learned early in college: that semen applied on your face will improve your skin complexion 🙂 “

Swallowing My Hubby’s Semen

Please note that even if the wife really enjoys and desires to swallow her husband’s semen, her being a woman makes this a fluctuating feeling, subject to caprice and typical mood shifting which is characteristic to us ladies. On the opposite side of the fence, men are driven by a linear and predictable way of thinking and acting (unfortunately). Over time, this makes a man look boring, self-complacent or even to be perceived as “rude” when he tries to push his redundancies on his wife. This typically men attitude has a considerable potential to annoy a woman. All that’s missing to her growing discomfort would be: “Here! Take it and suck it!” Oh, forgot to mention: “And don’t you dare not to swallow every drop of it!”

Larry, and my hubby, and definitely many caring and loving husbands don’t belong to the “typical men” majority. This is what makes them a minority. My point is that we can’t provide advice for majorities and minorities, because everything boils down to INDIVIDUALS and, for that matter, to COUPLES!

Marital sex, reciprocal oral sex between spouses, mutual masturbation in marriage, swallowing juices, all these are not the core of the problem. But the horde of elephants in your kitchen will keep chewing your nerves unless a romantic hubby will start surprising you every day, offering you the kind of variety that your soul longs for. Of course, this works differently for each couple.

Let’s continue presenting Larry’s reply to my reply — which is actually a well-thought article. I wish more wives will have an open eye to reading his points.

Share Your Husband’s Climax

“It is interesting that you mention that fellatio can be the best and safest birth control. That, of course, is true. It is much better than many of the other regimens and devices. Perhaps not many people think of oral sex in that way. Attitudes are slowly changing and oral sex is not looked at with such disgust or repugnance as in earlier generations.”

“Having read the comments of many wives (on marriage and sex discussion forum websites), a common theme for many is that when they actually tried fellatio with an open mind, it became – with a little experience and practice – an enjoyable part of their lovemaking with their husband. At first, many wives performed oral sex to pleasure their husband, but then they (the wives) found that they enjoyed the playfulness of the act and the exciting (and rather unique) sensations (including freely accepting the ejaculation inside their mouth). This shows that mental “blocks” can be overcome especially when the other spouse is patient and supportive. Oral sex enhances the emotional intimacy in marital lovemaking as well. There is a shared vulnerability, and a shared trust and respect and acceptance between the spouses. (If the wife is playing a submissive role in her loving fellatio, she is playing it actively, not passively! As well, husbands enjoy freely ejaculating away inside their wife’s warm, wet mouth, especially so when the wife welcomes this and enjoys receiving each pulse. What an intimate sharing/participating in her husband’s climax!)”

“Lastly, as you allude to, Doris, semen is more, much more, than just millions of very tiny sperm cells – there are minerals, vitamins and other nutrients in it. So, as long as her husband is free of sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), she can (eagerly) swallow as much and as often as she likes. Many women even say that they love the taste of their husband’s semen.”

Best wishes to you and yours!

Larry
http://larrysmusings.com – my nearly 6 month old blog site with a wide range of essays on various topics.

 

Men’s Thinking and Women’s Mothering

Oh, Larry, Larry, you’re thinking just like my man! When reading your lines I recall how many times Don spoke to me like this. Well, I can’t count how many, too many! But still not enough! How’s that? A typical man can never understand the tides of a woman’s soul. This may be seen as mental “blockage,” especially if she’s mothering. My man introduced the Godzilla-mothering concept, inspired by the local tradition about the “kitchen dragon.” It’s biology at work and the man has only one way of dealing with a mother’s hormones, that is by staying out of her way. Don’t you assume that we knew all this from lectures and theories. I wonder who does and, even if so, who will apply such a theory to the letter. A mother is like a moving monument, imposing fear at the surface. But her inner fears are so much bigger than her appearance. It’s much more than just complicated!

If her man, the father of her children, has the wisdom to circumvent the appearances — by providing for her, by supporting her spirit and by enduring her misunderstandings — then he is capable to open a tiny but mighty gate and see the storms inside her.

Such wisdom can only be provided by the Lord to the husband, as a consequence of sustained prayer and Bible reading (cults don’t really help but personal or group discussions on topics do).

The tiny but mighty gate is her pussy. Letting a humble hubby in but denying arrogance away!

The storms inside the mothering wife are small insecurities about yesterday and tomorrow — yes, devilish distractions from the present. Don’t you think that the evil one has only two horns and a red face. He can, and often does, take a pretentious posture and loves to lecture the ways of the Pharisees, by painting the outer walls of the graves in immaculate white.

What the wife needs inside her is HER MAN, not some chimera. And this applies both physically and spiritually.

As Larry truthfully points out, any mental block of any wife can be overcomed. No exception. All it takes is to have her man overcome her worries and allow her enough consensual inertia to respond in an expected manner. Such as swallowing his semen, for instance.

Cunnilingus Comes First

Ouch, I just said “any wife” and “no exception” in two consecutive phrases. This can be an overstatement. Why so? Simply because I have no God-like properties to see in any soul. I can’t draw generalizations without risking a walk across a mine field. The only verifiable considerations I can make are those that apply to my happy marriage.

I can imagine that men would like to think of me as a blowjob queen . I’ve got written proof from admirers about what they wish to do to my body when staring at my nude photos and masturbating over them. I can sympathize with the pressing mechanics of men’s biology and their inherent hormonal imperatives. The same way as I expect a man, more so: a husband!, to sympathize and — what am I saying? — to LOVE the moods of his wife, to court her when she yells at him, to kiss her hand after she slapped his face (isn’t that close to the Bible?), to provide for her, to praise her, to surprise her, to compliment her, to cuddle her and to perform cunnilingus on her.

Give your wife more than you expect back from her and you will see after a while how you’re gonna get fabulous fellations, more often than you can imagine. She will love to swallow your semen. The way I love swallowing Don’s — and he didn’t give me quite everything in the list above.

It’s a quid pro quo where hubby’s gotta jump first. His loving wife will follow! Why this? Notice the adjective “loving” — because this is what defines a loving wife: to follow her husband no matter what, no matter where.

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