Transfer Feminism to Porn


Kind admirers are sending gift cards in my mail box. I am very grateful and flattered. The only problem is that I cannot make any use of the presents. For different reasons: possibly because GiftRocket Team doesn’t cover Europe, perhaps that I don’t know much about giftsrocket.com or simply because I couldn’t open the PDF files. Some technical, continental or social barrier stands between me and the presents from my admirers. More so, I wished to contact them by email and explain the situation, but there is no mail address to reply to, other than the one of the sending robot – and I’m not in the mood talking to robots (not yet!). This is why I wrote this article, a bottle in the ocean…

Thanking my admirers for their gifts and messages, I hereby present what I’ve got: the messages.

A__ is sending you xxx Visa Gift Card.
Message: I’m your Southern-charms fan! You are stunning as hell. Many thanks for a great photos!

Lust_Admirer is sending you xxx Visa Gift Card.
Message: I’m such a big fan of you. Your body, soul and vitality are extraordinary. I thought I would motivate you a bit! Hope to see ya soon! You are STUNNING 🙂

Hope that the gifts, that I could never get, have returned to their anonymous senders. Now let’s talk about transfers and trust. Afterwards we’ll talk about sex and porn – as usual. If you really like a nude model and you wish to materially express your admiration, then please follow the lines of transfer that she has already established. Do this in all confidence: she will enjoy your contributions, safe for you and safe for her. If you wish to advance new ways of transfer, not known to her, then write her a personal mail. Ask first, then shoot. But if you wish to shoot first, Anonymous Cowboy!, then please use the existing channels of transfer. Or buy her a wearable present from her Sexy WishList. Yes! You buy it, I wear it, you’ll see the photos and the videos!

My subscription sites are: DorisDawn.com ; NudeInGarden.com ; DorisDawn.eu – on Southern Charms; CougarBunnies.com – on ModelCentro. And here comes the great news: this is my Tips page where you can spoil me if you wish. Sounds familiar? At least better than GiftRocket which proved a no-go for me. 😦

Feminism & Porn

Rohana, from RawWomen.com, has written a few amazing blogs about the social impact of pornography.

Pornography is any type of material that depicts erotic behaviour and is intended to cause sexual excitement in its audience. – See more at: http://rawwomen.com/?p=4264

Like the word pornography, we’ve got the word cuisine – a style or method of cooking, especially as characteristic of a particular country, region, or establishment.

French cuisine consists of cooking traditions and practices from France, famous for the rich tastes and subtle nuances with long and rich history. France, a country famous for its agriculture and independently minded peasants, was long a creative powerbase for delicious recipes, that are both healthy and refined.

Like the word pornography, cuisine is any style or method of cooking, intended to make food that causes excitement of flavors, satiation to the stomach, for the consumers. French Cuisine, Asian, Italian, Hungarian, Bavarian, Greek, etc. are all cuisines. Fast and junk food is intended to make food that causes excitement of flavors, etc.

By the general definition of pornography, Botticelli’s Venus and Primavera would be dragged into the same box of thought with gruesome orgies in hardcore porn. Differentiating in porn, and cuisine, is a matter for the audiences and for the artists, not for politicians or people with a cause. Propaganda is nastier than pornography.

I showed hubby the photo of Gerard Butler and asked him the question in the caption: “How does this make you feel?” He looked at me, smiling: “GAY! Makes me feel gay. So what?”

And then I realized the truth in Rohana’s article about politics and porn: women tend to see themselves through some sort of societal spectacles while men couldn’t care less about what other people think about them. When you have the power to leave your baggage behind, then you are free. I do this every time I pose naked, or make love in front of the camera. Hours, or days, later, fear shivers up my belly: what if relatives or people I see in church will find out?, what if my kids will know? What if? What if?? And I’m back to square one. But when I think like a man, then all (well, not all, most) of my worries vanish. Confidence gives me solid ground to step on, to find myself, to be desired and admired.

Mainstream porn, where men dream, imagine, script, direct, shoot, produce and sell their fantasies, goes way too far from the reality of a love story. The romance is faked, if it is. Puritan inspired societies, looking to censor sexual expression, only aggravate the deviance of mainstream porn by turning it into the de facto sex standard. Institutional sclerosis does not solve the problems it pretends to address, on the contrary: it forces the individual to pick from only two bad options. Seeing revolution as a tainted word (too much blood), I prefer to seek for solutions from a disruptive approach. Like the innovative technologies replacing each other, an epiphany will someday dawn on you and, leaving your panties behind, you’ll step out naked – this is who you are, how you entered this world, after all. Meet Cindy Gallop and her groundbreaking #realworldsex concept.

“Access to hardcore online pornography was meeting our society’s reluctance to be open and honest about sex, and both of those things were resulting in porn becoming, by default, the sex education of today.”

“I found myself encountering a number of sexual behaviors where I thought, ‘I know where this behavior is coming from!’ and I thought, ‘If I’m encountering this, other people must be as well.’ And, being a very action-oriented person, I went ‘Okay, I’m going to do something about this.’ So I put up the main money for this really basic website, MakeLoveNotPorn.com, I really had no idea that this was the planting of the seeds. I just felt that someone should be pointing out this issue, helping people do this, and I’m just going to do this. And, I’m going to make it lighthearted and funny.

While I was starting it the opportunity came up to present at TED and I took a deliberate decision to be very explicit in my TED talk because I knew that the audience would not get this issue unless I was extremely straightforward about it, which is why I am, to this day, the only TED speaker ever to have uttered the words ‘cum on my face’ on the stage. The talk went viral and the rest is history.”

Superwoman: http://www.refinery29.com/cindy-gallop#page-9

Now please allow me to ask you: is this pornography or real sex tapes, like in make love not porn? What is bad porn and what is good porn? If good porn isn’t porn, then what to do with the generalizing definitions of the word?

Posing with my roses.

Posing with my roses.

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