True Toys

Julie Lynn Evans, one of the UK’s foremost psychotherapists, has concerns that smartphones may be harmful to the mental health of children.


“With a smartphone – as opposed to an earlier generation of “brick” mobiles that could only be used to keep in touch with worried parents – youngsters can now, she says, “access the internet without adult supervision in parks, on street, wherever they are, and then they can go anywhere. So there are difficult chat rooms, self-harming websites, anorexia websites, pornography, and a whole invisible world of dark places. In real life, we travel with our children. When they are connected via their smartphone to the web, they usually travel alone”.

Wondering if the producers and providers of these gadgets, the big hardware brands, can produce toy-versions that won’t run, won’t display, won’t deliver harmful content to children. We already have toy-cars, toy-planes and toy-guns for children and that’s fine, I guess… Why not toy-phones? Why isn’t there any big brand offering a kids safe data protocol for online communication?

She quotes one website that has come up in conversations with youngsters in the consulting room. “I wouldn’t have known about it otherwise, but it is where men masturbate in real time while children as young as 12 watch them. So parents think their children are upstairs in their bedrooms with their friends having popcorn and no alcohol, yet this is the sort of thing they are watching. And as they watch, they are saying, ‘this is what sex is’. It is leaving them really distressed.”

We know that the adult industry has a fair and effective self-regulation level. This may serve as a starter for engineering a new generation of toy-phones. And since the big corps are in constant search for new markets, what a bonanza to sell ‘crippled’ low-end chips in novel fancy cases for kids, labeling them SAFE and all that. A win-win-win situation: companies making more money; mothers sleeping better; adults living happier in their ecosystems.

“When they are 15, you don’t, for example, let them go to pub, or stay out in the local park at four in morning, yet they’ll get into much less trouble physically there than they will on their smartphones on the internet. I’m not talking about paedophiles preying on them. I’m talking about anorexia sites and sites where they will be bullied.” That is where the damage is being done to their mental health, she argues.

600x800-maturemodel-doris-truetoysThe doctors provide the facts they’re having to deal with in the real world. Accidental porn watching is not a top scare because life is so much more than sex. Mobile devices (technology for adults) in the hands of children (anytime, anywhere) prove to be detrimental to a harmonious mental development – just like giving them the keys of the car or a gun. There are reasons for the ‘invention’ of the driver’s license or the gun permit. Why a smartphone, capable to induce long term mental damage to minors, is handled with nonchalance as a birthday present? Isn’t this device a tool (weapon?) too powerful for the little one?

The real problem is not about banning the internet, pointing fingers and blaming porn. Sure, it seems appealing to the politicians to find a scapegoat (the little guy or poor Mrs. Robinson), to incite public emotions for the coming reelection. But this is not the real world!

If Google, Apple, Samsung and other smartphone-gods would consider creating the ‘kidsafephone’ from its inner core up to its outer shape (hardware, software and marketing all new) then the politicians might have to look elsewhere for scapegoating.

2 thoughts on “True Toys

  1. the problem is not the internet and porn……the problem is the parents give the kids phones and i pads and let them go so they can have their fun uninterupted….the government steps in and wants to tell us how we should live our lives…..the best thing is for parents to teach the children that nudity is beautiful if you view it as art and body freedom……sex is a beautiful thing between husband and wife that results in children they love……..if more people approached nudity and relationships as you do Doris we would be a happier society taking care of things for our family and friends…….so parents you put the safeguards on your childs tech use and keep the government out of our sensual lives

    1. The drama, dear Bill, is that quite a number of parents are addicted to the nanny government, get hysterical whenever a politician sings “what about our children” and have no courage to see that the “emperor” has no clothes (after all).
      People “need” to cover their nakedness because they hate themselves – a traditional guilt syndrome?
      Love thy neighbor like you love thyself… at least it helps one thinking with a clearer mind instead of blaming and judging left and right (as told to).
      Thanks much for your thought-through comment!!
      Doris 🙂

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